You guys, seriously...my life is a circus.
My brother-in-law is getting married in September, as I've mentioned. I don't have a dress yet for numerous reasons, not the least of which is the fact that I'm waiting for some fall styles to come out. My mother-in-law asks me if I've found a dress yet every time we see her. I've been answering honestly that no, I haven't, but I've seen a few that I like. Soooooooooo...she has taken it upon herself to find me a dress.
People, I know she is trying to be nice, and she thinks she is helping. But I can't seem to feel thankful. Hubs just talked to her on the phone and it seems she has ordered some dresses to be sent to my house. And she keeps leaving messages on our machine sharing full catalog descriptions of dresses she has found "for me." I am frightened of what will be in these packages, as our tastes couldn't be more divergent. Also, she tends to buy me clothing in sizes that would have fit me in 6th grade...at least that's the last time I can remember wearing anything close to a 4. She never believes me when I say I need an 8 or 10. (I can't tell you how many things have gone to charity immediately following a birthday or Christmas, because she either cuts off the tags or doesn't include gift receipts with these "smalls" and size 4 and 6 items.)
I asked Hubs and he confirmed that I am not in any way a part of this wedding...I will merely be in the crowd. Yes, I will likely be in some family photos, but that's the full extent of my involvement. So it's not like I have to match anyone or anything, or coordinate my style with the centerpieces. Right? Technically, I should be able to wear whatever I choose. Right?
I don't know what to do about this weird situation. My in-laws cannot even afford to fix broken things in their home right now because of the costs associated with this wedding...there is no way they should be buying me dresses. Plus, I can afford a frock, really I can. I don't need them to buy one for me. I feel she is treating me like one of the kids she has babysat over the years, rather than a 31 year old adult who can pick out clothes just fine. Neither my m-i-l or her husband respond well to even the most direct communication. It won't matter what Hubs says or what I say...in fact, Hubs just now told her on the phone that she really doesn't need to order me any dresses.
Don't I have the right to pick out my own dress for this occasion?