tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18479627.post4961398088066889227..comments2023-11-16T05:27:40.136-05:00Comments on Stitching in the Buff: etiquette 101katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09962243760714546382noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18479627.post-9401535524318654712007-04-30T15:18:00.000-04:002007-04-30T15:18:00.000-04:00I agree that all you can do is offer. I have had ...I agree that all you can do is offer. I have had a unique experiance of throwing a shower for somone I hardly knew (at the time) It was less than a month before the wedding, and the groom was a good freind of mine. The bride's maid was being flown in from Japan (no relation to my inlaws) The only other person even close to the bride was her mother. I did this as a favor to the groom, because Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12822203924980569965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18479627.post-4349155793003936372007-04-29T16:20:00.000-04:002007-04-29T16:20:00.000-04:00I think usually the maid of honor throws a persona...I think usually the maid of honor throws a personal shower for the bride, and if she has a church, they usually throw the general shower. Technically, this girl is no relation to you - yet. She has family and friends who should take the lead in her wedding preparations.<BR/><BR/>It's natural that your husband would be asked by his brother to be a groomsman, but this girl really doesn't have to someone elsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12524255841655400982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18479627.post-30046996353689399142007-04-28T00:37:00.000-04:002007-04-28T00:37:00.000-04:00"help" with the shower, not "hope". Sorry. It's la..."help" with the shower, not "hope". Sorry. It's late.Stacihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09034318825601622180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18479627.post-68062818734833640122007-04-28T00:36:00.000-04:002007-04-28T00:36:00.000-04:00Not much new to say except that if you wanted to h...Not much new to say except that if you <I>wanted</I> to hope with a shower, you could reach out to the maid of honor, as I thought that she would traditionally be the one to hostess a shower. I wasn't aware of a rule about a mom/sister/grandmother NOT doing so. However, given the circumstances, I would say that you're under no obligation whatsoever, but it would be polite to be make it known (to Stacihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09034318825601622180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18479627.post-61786432131113255122007-04-27T22:04:00.000-04:002007-04-27T22:04:00.000-04:00Talk to you MIL. Tell her that you'll be happy to ...Talk to you MIL. Tell her that you'll be happy to help out however you can, and ask who is planning the shower. If it's someone you know, ask if you can help.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13161498569856503977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18479627.post-85644726327166848832007-04-27T19:08:00.000-04:002007-04-27T19:08:00.000-04:00i would suggest that you offer to help--let it be ...i would suggest that you offer to help--let it be known to your MIL that you will help however needed.<BR/>I didn't know the "rule" that a Mother/Grandmother didn't throw a shower.<BR/>In my case, my church had one and my MIL to be had one.<BR/>I don't think you are obligated to host or plan anything--given you are not that close, are not involved in the wedding and are not one of her friends.<Ann-Marie MacKayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03433678151256902582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18479627.post-88603571357093881882007-04-27T16:18:00.000-04:002007-04-27T16:18:00.000-04:00So here's my story - My only brother married a nic...So here's my story - My only brother married a nice girl who had many, many tall, thin and Barbie-licious friends (no, I'm not jealous - why do you ask?) anyhow, my sister's husband and mine were both in the wedding party. My sister's son and mine were the ring bearers (spelling?) and since my sister has the most amazing ability to do hair and makeup, she was given the all important task of Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14743016330834537598noreply@blogger.com